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by Karyl
Fri Aug 04, 2017 10:35 am
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Lost Mom - Suicidal 10-Year-Old Son
Replies: 1
Views: 857

Re: Lost Mom - Suicidal 10-Year-Old Son

Dear Lost Mom, It seems to me that you need to get the school counselor involved as soon as you can, and also the head of the special education department, because the treatment your son is experiencing is wrong and probably illegal. You mentioned sending your son back home to live with your sister....
by Karyl
Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:38 pm
Forum: Introduce Yourself
Topic: Lost The Love Of My Life :(
Replies: 1
Views: 952

Re: Lost The Love Of My Life :(

Emmy,

I am so sorry about the loss by suicide of the father of your child. Would you like to tell us about him?
by Karyl
Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:36 pm
Forum: Friends and Others
Topic: It's Been One Month Today-Mike
Replies: 7
Views: 4006

Re: It's Been One Month Today-Mike

Closed Book,

I've read that perfectionism can be a factor in some suicides. If someone does not live up to his or her own standards, expecting everyything to be perfect, it can be difficult for that person to cope with.

How did you find out that Dave had taken his life?
by Karyl
Fri Feb 24, 2017 8:14 pm
Forum: Friends and Others
Topic: It's Been One Month Today-Mike
Replies: 7
Views: 4006

ClosedBook - Imagining

Dear Dave's Cousin,

Actually, when you think about your cousin Dave going down the road, even though you know he's gone, it's not really lying. I think it's just allowing yourself to imagine or to fantacize for a little bit, to take a break from the harshness of reality.

Can you tell us about Dave?
by Karyl
Fri Feb 24, 2017 8:10 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: Art Jouraling
Replies: 2
Views: 3676

Re: Art Journaling

Closed Book,

Many people express their grief through art. Some people create designs in memory of the person. Som paint or draw or sculpt. Some people express their feelings through artistic dancing and music. Whatever works for you is good.

The page you created for Dave sounds very moving.
by Karyl
Thu Jan 19, 2017 11:02 am
Forum: For Siblings
Topic: I still do not feel anything?
Replies: 5
Views: 4700

Re: I still do not feel anything?

Simbas,

The cushion I referred to when I mentioned shock is that our feelings sort of seem to go away briefly while we are in shock so that we don't feel the pain of grief quite so intensely. In that way, the shock serves as a cushion emporarily. Does that make sense to you now?
by Karyl
Tue Jul 12, 2016 9:49 am
Forum: Venting
Topic: * Blaming Other People *
Replies: 5
Views: 6837

Phoenix * Blaming Other People *

Phoenix, It sounds as if you were a loving presence in the life of your fiance and his children. When he died, you lost him, but you apparently also lost contact with his children, who had become an important part of your life. I am so sorry. My take on this situation from what you've wrote is that ...
by Karyl
Mon May 09, 2016 9:04 am
Forum: Sons and Daughters
Topic: Mother's Day
Replies: 1
Views: 3871

Re: Mother's Day

Lisa G, Yes, when those of us who are mothers whose sons or daughters died by suicide see other mothers happily with their children, it's a reminder that we can't be physically present with our children any more. But I believe that we can still celebrate being their mothers, because our mother-child...
by Karyl
Wed Apr 27, 2016 8:42 am
Forum: * This Month *
Topic: 5 Years tomorrow....
Replies: 7
Views: 2510

Your dad

Insearchofpeace, Thank you for telling us about your daughter. Your description of him was so good, I could almost picture him. Your comment that you wish you had been a better daughter: My guess is that you were a wonderful daughter to your dad. You loved him.You admired him. You were his child. Th...
by Karyl
Tue Apr 19, 2016 10:58 am
Forum: Left Alone
Topic: Delete
Replies: 5
Views: 1627

Re: I'm tired...

Erika,

You mentioned that it's been over five years. Can you see light at the end of the tunnel now? How have you changed because of his suicide?

Your dreams - are they helping you process what happened?